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ColoradoRock
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Posted on: May 01, 2006
What Is Love
Some may scoff at this, but love is something we all want in
the end. It's the finding, and holding onto that is
generally most difficult. So, I have, in my own little way,
defined what love is through living life.
Defining love
and its concept, isn't easy as it sounds. Love is, has, and
always will be the one word in the English language, that is
defined by adjectives and verbs, laid onto paper, and rolled
easily off the tongue.
For countless centuries, love, has
been a prime focus in every novel written; be it romance,
gothic, western, humor, drama, horror, adventure or comedy.
Love has told the story of some of the greatest
relationships in history. From Adam and Eve, to Jesus
Christ. Anthony and Cleopatra to Romeo and Juliet.
In
using words to describe love with such words as beautiful,
dear, sweetheart, darling, honey and I love you; it isn't in
the telling that defines love, but more in the showing, the
expression of that love which becomes the primary
ingrediant.
A simple hug or smile, to holding hands,
giving a card, sending roses or an unexpected getaway for a
few days to enacting out a particular fantasy.
Sharing
responsibilities such as cleaning or painting a room in the
home, or cleaning out the attic. For men: cook for her for
a change of pace, and don't forget to put the toilet seat
down and the cap back on the toothpaste. This may bring a
grin to your face, but in the long run, showing respect when
due, is love.
Being able to see your partner's abilities
and talents as an individual is important. To notice the
little things as well as the major events in the course of
each day. Ignorance may be bliss, but being ignorant means
way too much is missed. Again, to respect what is done, and
how it was done, is another sign of love. It shows you do
care when away from your partner.
Communication. The
most vital part of any relationship. Listening to what is
said, as well as what isn't said. Hear the problems or
ideas. By hearing, listening, and not pretending, by taking
a real interest in thoughts expressed, allows you to become
closer. The reverse holds true as well. You can communicate
without words. That certain look in the eye, the curve in a
smile. The way hands are held and fingers interlock. The
playing around to get each other to laugh, or stroking a
cheek, to a simple kiss. The look of seduction, intimate
foreplay; this is love. It is also called being a friend,
when a friend is needed most.
Physically, making love is
perhaps one of the least forms to express love. No two
people can make love around the clock the rest of their
lives and survive on that alone. And yet, lovemaking is an
integral part in expressing love, an art form. The art, or
act of love, must or should be pleasurable. It should feel
as if the feeling will go on forever. Both partners should
shudder with the most intense, most satisfying feeling
experienced. Total fulfillment.
But, with fulfillment, as
with other things considered, we have to come back to two
important issues: laughter and communication.
Laughter,
as lovemaking should be fun as well as passionate.
Communication is a given, for without it, you have nothing
but a quick roll in the hay and nothing more than
self-satisfaction. Holding, touching one another as if to
say, "I love you deeply and will never let go."
In an
abstract sense, love is like a General giving orders to his
troops. Each must play an important part in what has to be
done to determine the outcome, otherwise there is failure.
So goes the way of love.
Love leads emotion,
understanding, respect, trust, humor, truth, communication,
passion, thoughts, and friendship on a direct path back to
love.
Three aspects round all this out.
The heart in
holding the feelings of expression, and the mind, for
realizing what is really wanted. As long as you keep your
mind straight and your heart true, there can always be
love.
Were you to go blind, you can still see the person
you love as the image is burned into your mind. If you could
no longer speak, you can still feel the love because of
emotion carried in your heart.
The third aspect is ...
sacrifice.
If, or when you fall out of love, don't stand
in the way of that person's happiness. To do so would place
your own personal happiness beyond reach. Hate is a cancer.
So is fear. They eat away at the core of a person's soul and
will continue until that soul is left an empty void. With
love, there is always pain, but the pain becomes a lesson
lerned.
Cast away fear and pain by not allowing yourself
the time to mull over a bad situation. Life for all of us
may seem a long time, but one day you wake up and are twenty
and another time you are fifty or seventy. Time has no
boundries and cares not about people. Move forward and
explore, in or out of love, because of all that was shared;
you should remain a friend, when needed. For some this is
easy, for other's it isn't. Love is also about forgiveness
and letting go.
Call it human nature, but you have
feelings like everyone else, no matter how hard you may try
to hide those feelings. You breathe, bleed red, laugh and
cry like everyone else. You need and want loved every bit as
much as the next person.
If it is wrong to feel this way
and you already do ... don't change. If you have never felt
this way, perhaps your need for change has come about. It
doesn't have to be in a blink of an eye or an instant whim.
Love is accepting change.
Know what is important.
The
choice is always yours.
Love is about making choices.
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ColoradoRock
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Posted on: May 29, 2006
Re: What Is Love
Love is, love has, and love always will be the greatest
mystery out there.
Call it fantasy, an engima, mystery,
evil, sensual or whatever; the emtional aspect of love or
how we see love is what drives many people to find that
perfect someone, and the thing is there is no such thing as
perfection.
With that said, in any relationship, one will
always love harder, deeper and stronger than the other.
As I mentioned above, "Love leads emotion,
understanding, respect, trust,humor, truth, communication,
passion, thoughts, and friendship ona direct path back to
love." These are all things that can tell you that love
isn't a fantasy, but a deep seated realness. The one you
love must also be your best friend above all else
first.
The other thing I mentioned is "As long as you
keep your mind straight and your heart true, there can
always be love."
When you find that certain someone that
will lift you higher than ever before, keep you floating on
that invisible cloud seemingly the rest of your life, then
you will know what love is supposed to feel like.
As I
closed that piece off, it is as I stated; it's about
choices. Never settle for less than what you hold deeply
within yourself. You know who you are and what you want for
a solid future and should expect in part, that much from a
partner, friend and lover if the chemistry is there.
One
day you will find your cotton candy cloud and the world will
be candy cane. The advantage of youth is that you have
plenty of time to find that which will fill that personal
void within you.
Use that time to be fulfilled wisely and
one day your heart will grow, your mind will be filled and
your soul will share sunrises and sunsets with the one you
were destined for.
You see, love is also destiny.
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